Saturday, May 3, 2025

4.5.2025 Sunday - home (and it means to us)

 


Home

In commemoration on our Journal's one-year anniversary, I thought it is appropriate to record something about the notion of a 'home' - a safe place where family members can gather and be counted, be acknowledged and not judged. Since our launch on May 1st 2024, we have welcomed 63 projects and their designers into the BA.J family home.

In order to be fostered, you simply have to be:

1.       From Borneo, and designing/building locally or elsewhere.

2.       From elsewhere, and building/designing in Borneo.

It is that simple.

If you already have your own website, or have been featured elsewhere - you're still welcome. We value your company; you can have more than one home.

In our life time, most of us have lived in several homes - the one we grew up in, the one which we build with our spouses and numerous other 'temporary' ones along the way. Each forms part of our personal history and its own cache of memories – their importance wax and wane depending on how and what we are doing at the time.

The family home we grew up in usually forms the strongest memory for many of us - our young minds sponge-like absorbing stories to be re-told years later. Like the story of how a family of 7 can live in a one-bedroom flat and still welcome relatives from Kuching to stay with them during school holidays. Or how Grandma would call each of her daughters on the phone each Sunday to recite that lunch-time’s menu, as enticement (or instruction) to come ‘home’ for lunch once a week.

But it is inevitable that family home would slowly empty, and each time we re-visit, it feels smaller and jaded. A home must do more than simply house its inhabitants, it must continue to foster new relationships and nurture the existing ones.

Part of growing up takes us away from home; work or studies or relationships can momentarily relocate/dislocate us. During those times, do we set up house? or do we ‘nest’ and create a home?. Some use time to gauge whether it is worthwhile to create a home from a temporary situation while others think that ‘wherever I lay my hat, that’s my home (Paul Young. 1983)

A friend of mine travels round the world with her favourite paintings, and hangs them up in her 'home' if she knows she is going to be there for more than 3 weeks.

I recently experienced this first hand; a home-invasion by 16 students from Chung Yuan Christian University arrived to stay at No. 40 (my parents’ house or amah's house as they call it) They are 2nd  Year students, here to do research and design projects for local sites. Each weekend, we would go over and cook for them. My friends bring food and join us, and we watch them.

I like how they gradually make themselves at home; running up and down the stairs, hanging laundry here and there, sudden bursts of laughter and conversation as the night draws on. At the end of their stay, I asked them to send me photos of their time at amah's house, and they sent me these photos which I am sharing as part of this article. It would appear that they know how to make themselves ‘at home’. They are coming back later this year, this time round I have no doubt that they will hanging up paintings, and not just laundry.

Many of us experience having to leave our home country ‘tanah-air’for further studies, some of us returned and many more did not. In a recent conversation with friends, we talked about our individual reasons for returning home to practice architecture. When I turned to the prominent Taiwanese architect for his answer - his was simple ‘you should never need a reason to come home’. The most succinct remark in this matter is from my tennis partner (not an architect) - who wished his children were working in Malaysia and not overseas - ‘they should come home to serve the community that grew them’.

To conclude, we simply encourage you to join us, and make yourself at home.

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